Your Marriage Relationship needs Service

Have you noticed that intimacy is lacking our married relationships recently? I have noticed a shift in marriage relationships among believers. If I say that some families are living as co-tenants would you say I am exaggerating? Please don’t judge me yet, take a pause and think about it and you would see sense in what I am saying. What do I mean by “living as co-tenants”, anyway? If you are living or have once lived in a shared apartment you would agree with me that though the tenants may share the same apartment each lives an independent life. I think some of us are beginning to live that kind of life with their spouses. If our lives are running on parallel tracks with our spouses what is the difference with that of the tenants?

Marriage relationships in some Christian homes are hanging like a web page that is offline. What happens when you open a web page and suddenly internet connectivity disappears, the page would hang; isn’t it? In the same manner, the relationship of some of us has gone offline because the source of connectivity is lost. Usually when a couple begins to feel disconnected from each other the main issue of the problem is intimacy. As we need internet connectivity to navigate WebPages, in the same way, couples need intimacy to stay connected to each other. Share on X That is an issue that many of us are battling within our homes in this 21^st century. Many life issues have taken us, hostage, that we hardly have time together as husbands and wives.

 Our Challenges

We live in a generation that busyness is the other of the day because of life challenges. We are engaged in raising finances, rearing of children, housekeeping, and other social engagements. Some of us are so carried away and have forgotten that we have a responsibility to maintain intimacy with our husbands. We are busy with activities while our marriage relationships are deteriorating. But we can testify that something is wrong with the relationship because our attitudes with our husbands are no longer the same. A young lady once complained to me about her husband. She said, “Mummy, my husband has changed, he is not the man I knew when we were courting”. I asked her whether she was still treating him the way she did during courtship, and she realised that there was a gap already between them.

An Enemy is Trailing Us

So what am I insinuating, am I condemning the efforts we are making to support our homes?  I am not saying we should drop everything we are doing and begin to follow our husbands wherever they go. I am saying that we need to be wise in everything we do because our enemy, the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.1Peter5:7. When we get carried away by our tight schedules and forget the role we play in the lives of our husbands Satan can take advantage of the loophole and sow his own seeds.

I recall the time I was working in the bank my home almost crack because I spent most of my time at my workplace. I would leave home 7.00 am and come back late in the evening already tired. If not for God on my side, at a point in time, Satan would have wrecked havoc on my marriage. I give God the glory because he failed woefully.

 There is a Reward for Sacrifice

We must create time for our husbands; men cherish physical intimacy. The easiest way to get a man’s attention is to be close to him. Check it out; any couple that shares most of their time together are best of friends. It may not be easy for some of us because of their responsibilities but with the help of God, we can make it.  If we make our homes our priority we can plan our time and apportion it wisely. Any woman that delights to do the Will of God would have her desires met by Him. PS.37:4.

I would appreciate your comment on this piece.