Have you noticed some changes in your husband’s attitude that made you suspect him of being unfaithful to you? I can imagine how frustrating and demoralizing a relationship can be if any of the spouses becomes unfaithful to the relationship.  But becoming bitter and resentful toward your husband is not the best way of providing the solution to your problem or imposing a change of attitude on him. Doing that may rather make him sink deeper in the attitude, and create greater gap between you and him.

Remember, you do not have the willpower to change him; but God has given you the power to influence him. If you love your husband and determined to make your marriage work you would have to pay the price. This involves sacrificing what you call your right; yes, it means loving your husband the way he is even when you don’t have the emotion that motivates you to do so.

To keep yourself from being bitter about the attitude of your husband, adopt these tips:

Don’t witch-hunt him by calling to know where he is at a point in time or sneak into his phone to see who called or message him.

Don’t settle on rumour, use wisdom to find out facts for yourself. Some people are experts in destroying relationships therefore, they may fabricate lies to achieve their aim. Avoid such people if possible.

Don’t meditate over what you suspect him, instead find biblical verses that can enrich your relationship with Jesus, and meditate on them.

Stop imagining things that may arouse your anger toward him. For example, when he is away from home then you begin to imagine him being with another woman.

 Don’t be curious to know who he is going out with; even if you know don’t confront her, but never embrace her in the name of being nice.

Be resolute in helping your husband go to heaven more than just winning him back to yourself.

Pray for him always out of a sincere heart.

Cultivate a forgiving heart so that your prayers can be answered.

Occupy yourself with God’s word that talks more of God’s kind of love and forgiveness; study it regularly and find books or videos on YouTube that can inspire you along this line.

Pray for grace to help you focus on God instead of your husband’s attitude.

Pray earnestly for him, and see him as your mission field instead of a betrayer.

Try and stop complaining about his attitude and be kind to him.

Do these things regularly and patiently; never get tired and quit if the change seems not forthcoming. If you rely on human ability you may reach nowhere, therefore, put your trust in God, seek help from Him daily. The scripture in Hebrews 4:15-16 has this to say,

“For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore, come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need”.

Waste no time, come boldly to the throne of grace, Jesus, our High Priest sympathizes with your situation, He is able and willing to grant you grace to triumph.