There is this popular quote about the Marriage Box, that it is an empty box which you must put something in before you can take anything out. This is a true saying but hard to believe. Every woman goes into marriage with expectations that everything would fall into place naturally and that it would all be rosy-rosy, but we all know that this is not true. You must work hard to make your marriage successful. Does that sound like a threat or discouragement to you? Read on, you have nothing to fear, ‘marriage is to be enjoyed, and not to be endured’. This is exactly what I am going to show you; how to enjoy your marriage. If you really want to enjoy your marriage then use these simple keys :
- Don’t look up to your husband as the main source of your happiness but look up to Jesus Christ. Your husband will disappoint you but Jesus Christ will never disappoint you. Your husband can only make you happy at your own expense, but Christ does not require anything from you before He gives you His peace. In John 14:27 He said, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give you”.
- Respect your husband. Honour him, don’t argue with him even when you are on the right side, instead keep quiet.Men don’t want to be confronted by their wives even when they know they are wrong. Your husband has a conscience, he knows he is wrong, but he may not want to hear it from you. When you keep quiet his conscience will condemn him and he will feel remorse over whatever offence he has committed against you; he may not tell you but surely he would be sorry in his mind.
- Don’t wait for your husband to say sorry before you forgive him. Men find it difficult to say sorry to their wives; they think it is a way of displaying their weaknesses and so wouldn’t like to feel humiliated. A man may rather look for another alternative to appease you when he realizes he has wronged you than to say sorry. Even if he does not show any remorse feelings over his offence towards you, just forgive him so that God will answer your prayer. The spirit of forgiveness is a powerful weapon that destroys every sentiment in a relationship.
- Pray fervently. Satan is against every good thing that God is doing for His children, so he uses different strategies to disorganize God’s plan in their lives. The best strategy he has is to use the closest person to you and attack you. If you are not prayerful you would be attacking your husband instead of attacking Satan. You must pray earnestly and sincerely, and God will surely grant you your heart desire. Luke 18:7-8a reads, “And will not God give justice to His elect, who cry to Him day and night? I tell you, He will give justice to them speedily”.
- Love your husband’s people especially his parents if they are alive. In Africa, it is believed that when you marry, automatically you have created a bond with your husband’s relatives.If you sincerely love his people you will gain his attention more towards you and your own people.
- Be there for him when he needs you. Whatever may be his heart desire from you provide it for him timely. Men become aggressive when they are hungry and the food is not there on the table for them. Likewise when they need their marital rights and you deny them.
- If God blessed you with children make sure you take good care of them. Men love to see their children being given proper care. They love to see their children looking healthy and beautiful, and well trained even if they are failing on their own part.
- Make yourself beautiful and well-kept for your husband. Take care of yourself so that you stay fit, and make sure you keep your house neat. Dress well (not gorgeous but modest). Men feel proud when they see their wives looking beautiful.
If you use these powerful keys well, you will enjoy your marriage and the blessings of God.
God bless you.
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